Please stop erasing and ignoring the struggles of the lgbtqia+ community in your fandom headcanons. It is barely better to be queer in 2014 than it was in the 1940s. Please stop saying shit like “Steve learns it’s okay and widely accepted to be bi/gay and…
Your actual words were it is barely better to be queer in 2013 than it was in the 1940s and that is wrong. The fact was that there were no English-speaking countries where you could have a gay partner in any capacity and have that be societally accepted in 1940. Today, you can have a relationship, you can get married, you can even adopt children (even if the system is fucked it is possible). Look, the fact that this is possible anywhere in a first world country is a massive achievement. I’m afraid that it is you who is erasing the massive achievements of gay rights activists around the world to say it hasn’t improved much. The fact that bisexuality has a word is progress. The fact that there are any non-vilified LGBT characters is progress. The fact this stuff is possible is progress. You cannot turn around and say that the people who have died for your right to love who you want have made no progress because that is such a horribly arrogant, shitty thing to do. There is such a long, long way to go and that may take centuries to fix. It will take longer than our lifetimes. You can’t say it’s barely any better when the president of your country is saying it’s okay to be gay and half a lifetime ago you were illegal is just the shittiest fucking thing.
I really hope you look back on this in a year or two and smack your head and go what was I thinking
My post isn’t about the progress of the movement, but the acceptance of queer folk in society. You’re the one missing the point. I know a lot of legal progress has been made, but socially it is
just barely better for queer folk to be queer. You can tell me all the legal rights queer folk fucking have all day, but queer youth are still terrified of coming out, queers are still being murdered and committing suicide and being viciously bullied and sexually assaulted all because they’re queer. Please don’t pretend that a few laws, as amazing as they are and i’m grateful for them, makes it magically better in general to be queer and we shouldn’t criticize people who say it is. We are still fighting for basic human rights, and while that is still happening, i stand by my original post.
You know Ellen Degeneres? You know the fact that she’s allowed to exist? That is social goddamn progress.
I refer you back to the Obama comment.
Oh yes, a straight cis man saying it’s “okay to be gay”, a straight cis man who is not affected personally by the struggles of being non-cis and non-straight. Oh yes, one white cis lesbian with a tv show. Massive social progress.
The thing is though, gays aren’t the only queer people. “being gay” isn’t the only concern for the queer community. And you said bisexuality has a name and that’s “progress” but it’s treated like a dirty word. I watched two seasons of a show with a bisexual main character and the word wasn’t said ONCE. Google doesn’t autocomplete the word “bisexual” because so much porn shows up. My own parents call bisexuals greedy sluts, and i know a ton of people who agree with that. I know more people that agree with that sentiment than i know queer peoplw.
I refer back to the violence and bullying against queers and the queer suicides, the queer kids who live in abusive homes. Just because there has been some progress does not mean i have to be 100% okay with the way things are and can’t criticize current conditions. The activists who have died that you keep using against me would be equally disappointed too, so don’t even with that.
I am grateful for the progress that has been made but it is not enough, and not even close to making it “okay” to be queer. It’s not illegal to be queer. That doesn’t equal “accepted” or “okay”.
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